Husband and father – Ryan Falconer is accused of allegedly raping a woman who he knew for years, then sending her a “sad face” emoji on WhatsApp after the traumatic event.
The incident happened in Bradford, United Kingdom last year on May 16th when the woman invited 24-year-old Falconer to her house because she needed somebody to comfort her.
The alleged victim is 20-year-old woman who’s identity was not revealed due to privacy concerns.
According to reports, he had sent her flirty messages in the past and also suggested sex to her after asking for nudes. Sometimes she flirted back but most of the time she would reject him because she saw him only as a friend.
The court was told that Ryan arrived at her home at 8: 45 PM and accompanied her to her bedroom. This is where the attack allegedly happened.
In the beginning, he tried to rape her orally as they watched TV on her bed then pulled her on top of him before he managed to rape her while she repeatedly said no.
The young woman told the court that Falconer told her when he was sexually assaulting her:
”You can do it, you know you want to,” but she kept saying, ”No, I don’t want to. Stop. Get off me.”
Prosecutor Jonathan Sharp told the jury that ”she made it perfectly clear that she did not want it to happen”.
At 10 PM, she made him leave the house and started googling phrases ”’I think I have just been raped” and ”Was I raped” because she was confused about everything that happened, she told court.
She told the jury that she was couldn’t scream, cry or do anything to defend herself and when Judge Jonathan Rose asked her why, she said: ”Because I just froze. I kept saying no. And you don’t want your parents to see you getting raped.”
After Ryan left , she sent him a message on WhatsApp saying: “You don’t understand how upset I am.”
Ryan replied to her with: ”Me too :/ I’m sorry, don’t want our friendship ruined.”
After he realized that she wasn’t about to accept her rape as a small thing, he kept saying: ”I’ve f***ed up! I’ve f***ed up my home life, f***ed up.”
She also threatened him that she might go to the police, then he replied: ”I’m so sorry, I miss read the signs and should of listened. Please don’t have me lose my son :'(”
Ryan was arrested and conducted an interview with the police, in which he has upheld his claim that she consented and never at any point objected to his advances.
The trial will continue.
Here is the full conversation Between Ryan Falconer and woman complaint below delivered to the court.
Complainant: U don’t understand how upset I am.
Falconer: Me too :/ I’m sorry, don’t want our friendship ruined.
Complainant: I told you I didn’t/couldn’t do it and you did it anyway.
Falconer: I’m sorry;( I Feel bad
Complainant: Do you know what I did when I went to the toilet? I actually cried.
Falconer: I’m sorry, you don’t know how much I wish it didn’t happen :'(
Complainant: I said no
Falconer: I’m sorry! I wanted you to say no one more time then it would have stopped. I’ve f***** up! I’ve f***** up my home life, f***** up my friendship with you and now I’m walking round pissed too god nos where. Right now I really wish was dead 🙁
Complainant: I said no countless times Ryan. You have no idea.
Falconer: I’m sorry, can’t say it enough, I don’t deserve your friendship. I’m sorry f***** up.
Complainant: I can’t cope Ryan really can’t
This is just about to push me over the edge.
Falconer: Me neither :/ please don’t. Come tomorrow focus on the good you’ve got. If you need me outa your life completely I understand :'(
Complainant: Focus of the good? It’s like I’ve just been raped Ryan.
Falconer: Raped at 20? Yeah everythings f****** good.
I’m sat outside some place in f***** tears, I’ve never wanted too die so much in my life. I’ve f***** up.
What do you want me to say?
Complainant: I’m sat here crying my f****** eyes out.
Falconer: Me too :/ don’t know what else too say.
Complainant: At this moment I have no sympathy, I feel like going to the police.
I’m so sorry, I miss read the signs and should of listened. Please don’t have me lose my son :'(
Complainant: What signs? I said no I can’t do this.
I’m sorry but you should have thought about that before you raped me.
Falconer: And I can’t lose my son! And we touched each other.
Complainant: Excuse f****** me!!!!!!!!! You was touching me and I kept saying no u pushed my head down don’t even f**king dare blame me.
You’ve just made in 10x worse! Thank you
Falconer: Just please don’t have me lose my son, I’m begging you.
Complainant: I can’t even speak to you, I just need to be alone.
Falconer: Ok, sorry for everything
Complainant: If you drop a glass and it smashes can you say sorry to it and it fixes bach together again.
Falconer: No you can’t
Complainant: No so you can’t do that with me either
I need to think about what I’m going to do so I’m off.
Falconer: Ok, just want too say without trying to use this as a guilt trip on you. If our friendship is over then that’s my f*** up, will tell [boy’s name]’s mum what I did without putting you in harm, if she kicks me out, that’s my f*** up. But I just can’t lose my son, he’s my everything and I need him so much.